My friend and I went shopping. A good start for a joke, but no, the story won’t be funny.
While shopping, I liked one dress. It looked very interesting on the hanger. But not on me. The fitting showed that in this dress I look like a tub for pickling cucumbers, and my complexion subtly resembles a floor rag that has been used many times. Only one thing could save this dress – its immediate return to the hanger, where he had a chance to wait for someone to whom it would suit more. Which I did without a moment’s hesitation.
And then my friend and I drank coffee, and she said:
— How easily you rejected this dress! Doesn’t fit and that’s it. Took it off and forgot about it. I would have suffered for another half an hour that SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME!
Do you also worry when things in stores do not suit you?
Do you think there is something wrong with you? That you urgently need to lose weight, pump up, God knows what to do with yourself, and only then … Only then will any things suit you!
I will upset you. They won’t even then! If you do not work as a model, if you have a standard size, for example, M and a standard height of about 165 cm, then out of the whole variety of things on the market, no more than 10-15% may suit you. Ready to justify arithmetically.
Bad things don’t suit anyone!
At least 30% of all things hanging in stores do not suit anyone at all. They are cut and sewn so badly, the design and colors are so unfortunate that they can be sent straight from the store rail for recycling. They are no longer good for anything. If these things do not suit you, then it is not something wrong with you, but with them. And with those who produced them, wasting natural resources and human labor.
Not sewn on you
Another 30% of things in general are invented and tailored tolerably. But they are not tailored to you. Not your proportions. Mass fashion giants have been struggling for years to average the parameters of different women and build “universal” patterns that will suit everyone. But “average” women do not exist in nature, we are all different. And attempts to sew “for everyone” only lead to the fact that ideally these things do not sit on almost anyone. This is one of the reasons for the popularity of knitwear and fabrics with a fair amount of elastane – they more easily forgive the discrepancies between the “average” cut and the real body. They smooth out the lack of individual fit according to the figure with their elasticity. But with a classic coat, with a dress or jacket made from traditional costume fabric, such numbers do not work.
If a fitted dress stretched over the chest, like on a drum, and formed a picturesque hump on the back, it is most likely a dress from a German brand. They are often designed for tall stature, a wide back and a small chest. And it can be a great dress, but it can’t suit you if you have a narrow, not very long back and a magnificent chest. And everything is all right with you, and with the dress, it’s just that you are not a couple with him.
And Spanish and French brands, on the contrary, often focus on narrow-backed and thin-boned ones, so a dress in your size can easily be tight in the armhole and narrow in the sleeves. And everything is in order with you, and with the dress, you just are not made for each other.
You cannot be a powerful German skier and a slender French ballerina at the same time. Even if you selflessly train, eat right and bring your body to the best shape available to it, your height and body type will not change from this. Some part of the things in this world will still remain tailored not for you, and there is nothing catastrophic in this.
not your style
And some other things, about 25-30% more, can be sewn well and tailored to your figure – but you don’t want them! Brutal black leather pants can fit you perfectly, but what use are they to you if you want to see yourself as a delicate young lady in ruffles and lace? Conversely, an airy tulle skirt may be perfect for you, but if you grit your teeth and build an image of an iron lady in a severe pantsuit, then in the store you won’t even reach for it. Many pieces of clothing that would suit us according to the parameters of the figure, we sweep aside on the distant approaches, we do not even give them a chance. Or we still try on and … say: “not mine.”
Sum the numbers above and you will see that
85-90% of things won’t work for you
And if out of 7-8 things that you took to the fitting room, one suits you – this is a normal, natural result. If nothing fits, this is also normal, but this is an occasion to think about whether it is worth spending time on this store next time. And if somewhere 2-3 things came up to you at once, that’s great, it means that you should go there more often!
The main thing not to do is to drive and look for the cause of unsuccessful fittings in yourself. You don’t have to match someone else’s. Each brand, each designer can have their own vision of how the woman looks like, for whom their collections are created. But you have every right to look different!
Note that we are not talking about the price of things here, because everything stated is true for brands of different price categories. Of course, expensive brands will have a minimum of frank garbage, but even with them, not all things will be sewn on you. And that’s okay!
A smoker’s wardrobe or a healthy person’s wardrobe?
Trying to squeeze into things that don’t suit you, just because someone called them “must have”, because the brand is a buzzword, or because a star you want to look like wears such things, this is the way to the “smoker’s wardrobe” . This is a deliberately losing position, in which things do not decorate you, you always worry that you “do not fit”, and you are always dissatisfied with yourself.
A healthy person’s wardrobe consists of things that suit you, please, decorate and do not require anything from you. No overreach. And if you have selected every item in this wardrobe by trying on and weeding out a dozen inappropriate ones – this is normal! It’s the only effort things are worth.
